Monthly Archives: December 2014

Mel Collie | My Top Diet Tip

Mel Collie | My Top Diet Tip

 

 Have you seen the date? Its not only nearly Christmas, its not that long to New Years Eve and those New Years Resolutions.

Most of us are already aiming to joining a  gym or workout more in Januarys after eating all those goodies over the holidays. Those “New Year New You” adverts will start to come out, though whatever would inspire you not to be you in the first place is beyond understanding, because you are you, and thats unique, how lovely is that?  Anyway…

With that in mind , this is my nos 1 top Diet tip, that I use all the time since I started teaching Bootcamps a couple of years ago, studied meditation, studied nutrition, studied neuroscience, read all the books I could get my hands on that covered all those things as if I was trying to find the answer .

Theres so many diet types out there, so many people telling us to eat this, eat that, dont drink that, dont eat that, take this supplement, dont do that exercise, dont meditate, do meditate, etc etc…makes you stop and change all the time, your inner self has no idea whats going on and is very confused, so gives up and tells you its digging its heels in until you stop messing about and do something it can understand.

This is it…are you ready…drum roll…

1. Be Happy .

Thats it

Did you groan then and look up to the heavens?

Good 🙂

So , imagine a person who goes to the gym in January, trains hard, works hard, feels pulled from all directions, hates working out, stands at the back of the class because they dont feel they fit in with the “clicky” crew at the front of the class, feels awkward in the gym, doesnt really know what to do but beats themselves up

the joy you feel moving towards your potential

Joy experience in ups and down.

when the crap happens

when the sleep doesnt come

when the cravings happen

when the dips stay

its all growth

Happiness isnt all red roses and smiles and rainbows.

The crap is all a part of your path.

Embrace it, step back and see it for what it is.

Mel

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Mel Collie | 3 ways to cope with stress levels this Christmas

Mel Collie | 3 ways to cope with stress levels this Christmas

The words stress and Christmas are hard to write in the same sentence, unless is “stress free”  or  “reduce stress”. You know deep down that Christmas is supposed to be joyful time of celebration and remembering friends and family, helping others, yet each year we place an unmanageable amount of stress on ourselves… why is that and how can we help ourselves reduce or at least cope with it?

Heres my 3 ways, I hope at least one of them helps you out this year.

1. Stress is ultimately a reaction to our thoughts, that means we have thoughts that arent in line with what we want or who we are deep down. Our anxieties about what others expect from us are from our thoughts . We are worried about not having enough food on the table, the right food that looks and tastes good, worried about not spending enough on presents, worried about not being a Scrooge, worried about appearances, being judged for our decisions, worried about money. We are all the same with our worries and concerns.  Recognising that its our own thoughts we have from beliefs we have from our upbringing or from peers that create such stresses. Step back and look at what it is you are anxious about this Christmas. Is it the same as last year? How did that go? Did you hate every minute of it? Is that true? Is it really true? How would this year be different without that thought. Without those thoughts of “It wont be good enough, I dont have enough, I cant do enough, they will not like me, they will judge me, I have to buy this or they wont speak to me again.”

How do you know thats all true? Really, do you know it to be true?

Where would you be without all those words in your mind?

Now for he hard bit … turn it all around…maybe YOU wont like you if you don’t do all that stuff, maybe you will feel like you have let yourself down, maybe you are doing all of this because its the way you believe it should be, maybe its not “them” who create your worry, maybe its YOU beliefs and values you hold so dear that are stressing you. Take a few moments to look inside your mind and your beliefs and values.

Are YOU important to you?

2. A great calming influence is a nice cup of tea..but wait a sec, not just a cup of Typhoo….I mean a hormonal calming tea, one that really does do what it says on the tin. Tulsi Tea is made from a plant in India called Holy Basil. So if you want some holy stuff around you this Christmas, drink some Holy Basil. It calms your innermost critic. Helps you calm and reduce Cortisol, so drink it from about 12.00 – 8pm when Cortisol should naturally be dropping, but our “modern” lifestyle of lights on when dark and working late, means it stays unnaturally high. Help your body help your demands of it.

Heres some more information on the benefits of Tulsi: http://organicindia.mercola.com/tulsi-tea.aspx

3. Rhodiola – yes, another herb! I’m such a hippy! I am one of those “must get on with it” people, always rusching about and doing something, but to my own personal detriment, and especially my healths. Many times I’ve been run down, especially when I worked in London, working from 6am to 9 pm most days. When I left the “rat race” to live somewhere beautiful, away from concrete blocks of flats and loads of shops (Croydon – though the parks are lovely!) I ended up in Cornwall, originally hailing from Brighton, I love being by the sea, I feel less claustrophobic having all that open space of just looking out and seeing sea, not seeing houses.

But, you get used to life around you (in other words, you bring the same stresses with you because they are in your own head)  and it wasnt long that I was doing more stuff and stressing about a mortgage and a house and starting up a business teaching Pilates. When I went on a course to study the Endocrine System, Nutrition and Fitness, I practiced what I was preaching and changed my diet of white bread, pasta and cheese to a diet of eggs, greens, chicken, stir frys, water (I didnt drink any, now it 2 – 3 litres a day) herbal teas instead of coffee  (Tulsi Tea of course!) and a supplement called Rhodiola. In a bottle with a pipette, dropping a few of this herb solution into water in the morning, and I was calm and could cope with the day. Its a bit like Tulsi Tea I suppose. It helps your mood, helps cope with depression, alleviates mental fatigue. Your health food shop will sell it.

 

There you go, just 3 little miracle workers for you. But theres one more thats totally free,and you do it everyday, and that is sleep, good quality sleep. Your natural clock wants to slow down and rest when it gets dark, and wake up when it gets light, its all it knows. The same runs true for plants and flowers, animals and funghi.

Our life now tells us to be awake longer and sleep less, with more electrical stuff in our rooms like a TV and mobile, affecting sleep, we have trouble falling asleep or staying asleep.

Heres a few tips to help you as they helped me, i was rubbish at falling asleep, took me at least an hour to get to sleep, no matter what time I went to bed , regularly waking during the night.

1. Sleep in the darkest room you can – get a blackout blind if there is a street light outside annoying you. Turn off the TV from the wall. Turn the digital clock around so the glow isn’t affecting you.

2. Move the Mobile. Put your phone outside you room or turn it off. If you use it for an alarm you will still hear it if its outside your bedroom door. If thats not possible, buy a proper alarm clock and turn off your mobile, its radiation waves affect your sleep patterns.

3. Don’t drink caffeine after 12.00, it stays in your body for a very long time, affecting your sleep rhythm and your bodies natural ability to heal itself. Get on the Tulsi Tea!

4. Unwind, or are you thinking that checking facebook or emals before you sleep will help you relax? You really arent missing anything, so dont check your messages after 9.30pm, the light from the laptop/mobile will stimulate your brain into thinking its time to wake up. Have a hot bath, light those candles, relax. Kids have a bedtime routine, why dont you?

 

Its down to you to make this time of year one that you will enjoy, its no one elses responsibility, they are way to busy rushing around the shops to think about you, be awrae of that if you worry about what others will think of you, what they think of you is truly none of your business, in a warm and kind way, that means, that its none of your business because they have their own worries, the same as yours, and if they do judge you, it will be for a fleeting moment, not for the whole day or longer. their judgements are outward reflections of their inward troubles.  When I watch a programme like Jeremy Kyle, for example, I see a complaining person who inside, doesnt like themselves, not the other person they are shouting at, but who hasnt seen themselves for the beautiful person they really are, I see a confused person.

A person who you think judges you, has their own problems to deal with being kind to themselves. A person who I think is judging me, I feel sorry for, because they are not liking themselves very much, you never get attacked by a person who is more successful than you.  I no longer worry about what they think of me, I used to, used to be a people pleaser, always worries about what others thought of me, tried to be liked by everyone, but thats not going to always be the case. Look after yourself first. Always. Fit your own oxygen mask before fitting others.

Be healthy and enjoy looking after yourself, its not a selfish act, well, it is in a way, but , no one else cares about your health, well-being and future days on the planet than your own self. So, believe in yourself, take one small step towards loving yourself from within, because when you do, you are then going to be there 100% for others who you wolld love to help out and then share your story on how you combat stress this Christmas, and well into the new year too.

Your wellbeing is for life, not just for Christmas.

Mel

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mel collie | How many times a day ?

mel collie | How many times a day ?

If I asked you what movement or exercise you did the most per day you might say that you walk a lot, or that you sit a lot because of your job and that prevented you from exercising as much as you would like to..But you wouldn’t consider that breathing is the most common movement pattern we perform everyday – we all breathe about 25,000 times a day…thats a lot isnt it?

Many of us breathe shallow quick breaths, and maybe because of sitting, injuries, fear, anxieties, our breathing changes,our rib position affected, many a section of our rib cage that doesnt move as effectively as the other side for example.

Rib mechanics can easily be checked and altered in a matter of seconds.

However, without doing an assessment on you personally, heres what you can do to help your breathing improve:

Lie down on your back, knees bent, pillow under the head so you are comfortable.

Place one hand on your belly, between the navel and the pubic bone.

Place the other hand on the part of the upper chest by the collarbone, as you breathe see which hand moves first.

Is it the top hand?

For most of us it is as we use the smaller shoulder and neck muscles to breathe, instead of utilising the diaphragm

Now imagine the lower hand is a heavy book, use the tummy to push the book up to the ceiling as you breathe in, and lower it as you breathe out, no need to suck the tummy in, just breathe.

Practice for 10 breaths, 4 times a day, without squeezing your bum or clenching you jaw or moving your shoulders off the floor.

The diaphragm is an often overlooked muscle in training but s simple breathing exercise can bring it back to life simply and effectively to help improve posture, balance, strength and confidence.

Mel

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mel collie| are you surrounded by idiots?

mel collie| are you surrounded by idiots?

I dont man that title of this blog post to be rude, you may take offence to it, if you do take offence though,  do you also take offence to people around you who tell you that you are stupid, shouldnt be doing that, why arent you doing this, shouldnt you be wearing that, why are you wearing that at your age, im sure you should be slowing down at your time in life, shouldnt you be eating that?

Advice…is it advice? …can be debilitating, overwhelming…negative..

When you listen to others opinions, even if they think they are well meaning, well, they can stop you in your tracks and doubt yourself from taking the next step forward.

Surround yourself with positivity, positive places, people, food, stuff that makes you happy, not stuff that makes someone else happy.

When you start to do that, your life falls into place.piece by piece, like a jigsaw.

When I sold my house earlier this year, I had my doubt and fears, loosing the security of it, but its all a story I believed from listening to how we should be living our lives as we grow older. Its all a story.

I’m still here, living, enjoying life, with a lot less stress. (no more B & Q on Sundays! yay!)

I’m now training for the 3 Peaks challenge in 2015.

Walking up Snowdon, Scafell Pike & Ben  Nevis in no more than 24 hours.

Knowing that this has been done many times before comes as no surprise but knowing others have done it in 12 hours, is daunting, makes you think ..well..I might fail, I might not do it in 24 hours, what if I dont, what will people think of me, what if..

..all those thoughts stop you in your tracks..stop you ..from being you.  And when you see they are just thoughts, that arent true, because you dont know the end result, until you try it…

Who would I be without those negative thoughts? Id be walking up those peaks and I would be training every day, without fail, and looking forward to the next trekking challenge

Who would you be without your negative thoughts? What if…?

Mel

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Mel Collie | Three ways to overcome Fear

Mel Collie | Three ways to overcome Fear

 

Earlier this year I sold my 4 bed 200 year old house, which I loved, but after a split in a  relationship, it was time to sell the house, which was far too big for me, and downsize, have less money worries and more time for me. So here I am, a few months later, working less hours, even though I’m fortunate to absolutely love what I do, I dont have to work every morning and every evening and worry about paying a rather large mortgage.

The time came that even though I now teach only a couple of Pilates classes a week, I needed a challenge for me.

So after checking out a few charity websites, I decided on a trekking challenge. My bloke mentioned the 3 peaks challenge which sounded like fun, and a great way to see those 3 peaks, the views, and get fit at the same time, we drew up a training programme which meant I would be walking, a lot .every day (currently at week 3 of training and walking about 6 miles a day, ( 10 miles today though) and circuit training for extra stamina using weights and interval training .

Now, I am the same as you, and have my doubts and when the fears creep in, I can easily convince myself that it isn’t important, I can slow the training down, in fact I can do it and not train at all, but you know what?

I’m training, not just for this challenge, but for future trekking challenges I want to do, like an Icelandic and a Sahara desert trek 🙂

Its interesting when you have a deadline each day to see how hard you can push yourself and if you do listen to that negative voice in your head telling you to stop, telling you to go no further, telling you that you are crazy and its nicer to sit at home and be comfortable.

well, yes it is 🙂

But , thats listening to the voice of the fear of failure, the voice that tells you that others will judge you a failure if you cant do something, even if you fail once, that it, you are a failure at everything.

What a load of rubbish

Its those who fail, pick themselves up and go again that are the ones who are the strongest, those who have had the struggles are the ones most qualified to help others.

Many times we ask ourselves – can I do this? What if I fail? What will people think of me?

Heres what I think:

1.Accept that you will fail and that fear of failure is normal, everyone has it, even the most successful people will have the “what if ” brain chatter.

2.Fear will stop you from doing what you want to do, fear that others will ridicule you, make fun of you, laugh at you when really they also face the same fears you do, they too fear all those things like you do, but you are listening to the loud voice that tells you not to make a fool of yourself , and you play it small, missing out on stuff you want to do or showing everyone who you really are, your unique characteristics .

3. Fear is the only thing to fear. It is circular, it comes back that there is nothing to fear but fear itself, its your brains way of trying to keep you alive, these responses are evolutionary from a time you could get killed by just walking outside – animals with big sabre teeth, poisonous berries , other cave men wanting to kill and steal our meat etc – we now live in a  time where those responses aren’t necessary – fear and hate are hooked together,   we’ve been bought up in a warm cosy house, TV, food in the fridge, cosy bed, food in the supermarkets,  and so the fears become twisted, fear of spiders for example, your brain has to have something to exercise its fight flight response, fear is a realisation, its just that, if you realise you are afraid of something you are no longer afraid of it, the thought is irrational.

Once you realise a fear is unfounded, it should be banished forever. Its not an irrational thought, its the most rational thing, the modern fears are unfounded, thats the difference.

Life is easy and not as dangerous as it used to be, the brain, a product of millions of years of evolutionary process to purely keep us alive (fight or flight) cant just shut down, so we look for things to be frightened of.

This will manifest in worries and fears of how we look, what others will think of us, fears our brain makes up to keep its software running and current.

Ask yourself :

Is my fear rational?

Is it a product of my flight/fight mind?

Can I realise it ?

The people who don’t feel fear can be seen as just daydreamers.

Zen.Fear is the absence of Zen.

Once you realise that, there is no going back

Mel Collie

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