Mel Collie | Think You Are A Failure?
Most days I speak to other women who play it small, keep things quiet, afraid to shine their light.
Because they are worried what other people will think of them, but also, worried that they will fall flat on their face, fail, and then be laughed at.
Thats one reason that I kept playing it small when I moved to a new location in North Wales, UK, as a Pilates teacher, I met another Pilates teacher with a successful business a couple of miles away, just outside the village, but because I believed she had better Pilates equipment than I and that she was trained through a very strict and well connected Pilates school, I felt that she was better. I played it small. I got what I thought I deserved, which was…no clients…for weeks and weeks..
That left me feeling useless, a failure, with no purpose.
My partner then had a serious infection in his foot. In hospital , they wanted to take his foot off..he’s a climber, and that would have changed a lot of stuff for us, but having a very strong and different way of looking at life, probably due to his life of studying Physics and eastern mysticism, he quickly recovered and looked at whatever was to happen to him as an opportunity, not a failure.
That woke me up! Wow, if you can look at a serious implication of having a foot off as an opportunity, then I could look at not having any Pilates clients as a lesson, an opportunity, so I did. I changed my thinking. I changed my expectation , and the things changed around me.
Is my business as successful as it was before I moved here? Nope, nowhere near, but that took 5 years to build, and I’ve only just started here.
Have I changed the way I teach Pilates? yes I have. Ive slowed down. Ive used my spare time to study the brain and how it affects movement, pain, mobility, flexibility, strength. I used to train anyone, now I just train very small classes for specific types of clients, women who have lived with pain for more than 2 years, aged 30 + and find larger exercise classes intimidating. The sessions are a mixture of gentle modified Pilates, laughter, brain hacks to help reduce pain fast, self esteem boosters and accountability. Not your average class, but then Im not your average teacher.
Am I happy? Yes, most definitely, my days are free to be curious, and one of the things I have is a curiosity of the world, how things work, why things are the way they are, what a sunrise looks like by the lake, what a sunset looks like on the beach, what reflections look like through raindrops from a leaf, what Autumnal colours look like in the woods by the lake, what the view is like at the top of the mountain and what can you overcome within yourself along that journey. Ive taken up photography, invested in a proper grown up camera with proper lenses, a bright Orange (LOVE that colour!) rucksack, with proper compartments for those lenses and camera stuff…and sweeties for the long walks…(photos are on my website: www.melcollie.co.uk and Flickr too! Very posh! )
What is your curiosity? Follow that and you just may find your passion.
Beginners Pilates Classes for posture, self esteem , fun, support, reflection and of course, the obvious core strength are now happening in Llanberis, North Wales.