Mel Collie | Fat Kids, Thin Kids
In a very popular newspaper this week theres been articles about fat kids, thin kids, schools that tell kids off for being fat, stories about how that makes their parents feel..and each article is so scant with detail that it doesn’t really tell you anything.
Don’t know about you but that leave me feeling like I’ve just had some of my brain cells stolen for nothing in return. I feel frustrated that the paper leaves the reader…thats me..a feeling of blaming the system, that the system is failing the kids and that the fat kids are to blame.
Are they saying the kids should be weighed more? How much more?What do they do with those figures? What words do they choose to say to the kids that are being weighed. Do the kids truly understand why they are being weighed?
Do they understand the consequences of being over or under weight? Do they understand what food is? Do they get what energy is?
Do they know what carbs, protein and fibre are? Do you?
Do they understand that metabolism changes all the time? Do you?
Do they like moving, playing, running, skipping, jumping, climbing, swimming, games? Do you?
Are they made to do sports in the rain that they hate? (I loved tennis, hated netball…I was very lucky to have the opportunity to play tennis in secondary school, but hated netball when I was in first school…top tp – you cant play tennis in the rain, but you can play netball, Im a fair weather sports girl..Pilates was around but not as much when I was growing up. It only came to the UK in the 1970’s, and Yoga was just for hippies back then, but so was peanut butter and health food shops. )
How is their self esteem?How is yours?
How often do you weigh yourself?
Daily? Weekly? Monthly?
How do those numbers leave YOU feeling?
Like they STOLE a piece of your happiness?
Transfer that feeling to the kids now…
A feeling of failure, not being good enough, hating themselves.
Some of those kids, with the right support and mindset, will use that as fuel to better themselves.
Many of those kids will use the information to go further into themselves, ironically turn to comfort eating, keep walking around in circles, chasing their tales. Crying out for help from the inside.
These stories are becoming more common, and they make me sad to see them
We label everything.
We tell our kids that they are fat or thin.
We do that
They learn from us
We are their example
We feed them
We buy the food, we cook the food, we serve it up on the table….or on laps in front of the Telly box, or as they look at their mobiles/ipads/whatever distracts them.
We buy what we see, and how these things make us feel.
Adverts influence us, theres usually an emotion attached – does the music in an advert create a feeling in you?
If we are feeling like we need comfort from the world we live in, we turn to food that isn’t nourishing us. We eat cake (I do, I love a slice of Lemon Drizzle !)
We comfort eat
We emotionally eat to fill a void.
Could be that you are in a job thats getting you down.
Maybe your relationship isn’t as fulfilling as you would like.
Maybe your financial situation isn’t as rosy as you hoped.
Maybe you don’t believe in yourself. Maybe you don’t like yourself very much.
What helps short term?
What helps long term?
Adults are starting to “get”mindset, understand it more.
Now, when I was a kid, I hated veg. I NEVER ate any veg on my plate.
Mum would buy a chicken pie for dinner and I would pick out the peas and carrots, leave them on the side. This isn’t unusual!
Sunday lunch was left to go cold, I didn’t like roast dinners.
Now, though, I adore food, roast potatoes…lush..green veg..gorgeous..
Theres more choice than than when I was a kid.
However, what changed for me was my health
When I went through an early menopause I was put on hormone replacement therapy, which left me feeling very depressed and tearful
I came off it after 4 weeks and bought a book on natural hormone therapy which leads to change my diet.
I stopped eating white bread and pasta
I started eating green veggies like kale/cauliflower/cabbage/brocolli , lean meat like chicken, turkey, a little red meat like mince(cottage pie!), sweet potatoes, rice, fruit, avocados (make great cakes!)
I became excited about food, I ate a lot more food.
I felt better by changing my diet, I wanted to have more energy. I love afternoon naps but not when I have to work and feel sluggish, relying on coffee to perk me up then having trouble sleeping at night because of the caffeine.
I was going around in circles!
Educating myself changed everything.
Taking responsibility for my health changed everything.
Kids don’t know how to do this unless we guide them, help them, educate them, and if schools are cutting down on classes like cooking then they are going to be lost.
Have we lost the passion to cook at home, are we really too busy?
Can an hour at the weekend be set aside to prepare food for the week ahead so we don’t stress about whats for dinner after we get home from work.
Freezing dishes like shepherds pie, soups, mince for spaghetti bolognese/lasagna, curries.
Trying fruit and veg smoothies as a way of consuming more nutrients.
However, the biggest takeaway (ha! excuse the pun!) from all, this is to have more, much much more:
When you take responsibility for yourself, like yourself more and accept who you are with all your amazing uniqueness, it opens a whole world of possibilities.
Food choices then become secondary, because you are out there having way too much fun to even bother thinking about calories, fat, sugar etc. Put down the information overload , put Google away and get outside.