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Mel Collie | Don’t reach for the stars…

Mel Collie | Don’t reach for the stars…

Stop it now, stop thinking you can each for the stars

Theres a huge explosion I’m witnessing on social media telling you that you can do it, you can be have and do more.

And you can..but theres a right way, and a wrong way, and I feel that many of us are in overwhelm and feeling stuck because we are doing it the wrong way.

I’m seeing a few people who are spiralling into feelings of despair and unworthiness, overwhelm and unhappiness..because they believe that their lives are unworthy

Thats a huge problem, because, in my humble opinion, no ones life is unworthy

We are all equal

You have a right to be on the planet as much as anyone else does, what you choose to do with the years you breathe are totally up to you, its your decision.

It is not a waste of your time if you feel you have no passion to do big things and achieve great stuff..who actually determines what great stuff is and why do we still deal with labels, putting ourselves into boxes and closing the lid?

Look at human beings who talk about buddhism.. for example

They are only talking about kindness towards each other – they aren’t bank managers, they aren’t CEO of Harrods, they aren’t running a newspaper, they aren’t CEO of a popular shop or brand, they don’t swear by eating clean and doing 100 sit ups for flat abs… yet they smile and are content..

They too may have wondered what they are going to do when they grow up

Like you, they may have been tempted to work in an organisation, in an office

….Well, ok maybe not, but you see where I’m going with this….

When I’m on holiday, its the local people who make the place, the people standing behind the counter serving you the coffee, the people in the street standing around chatting, the people sitting outside the cafes playing chess, the people mingling and just living, just being, in their ordinary lives, they are the characters.

You don’t have to reach for the stars if you don’t want to

You can just be

If you feel that just being isn’t not enough for you, well, the noise of social media can drown out your passion, until you just follow the crowd feeling alone and lost without a sense of purpose, because you may just be spending your time comparing yourself to others, even if you don’t mean to your life may seem to pale in comparison to others achievements..

…remember though, the life on Facebook and Twitter etc is usually fake, not many people take off their mask when they are on social media, they are great at being keyboard warriors, hiding behind the laptop, but to actually stand up and be real, that takes courage…

What to do about it then? You could spend some time being silent, away from the noise, closing the laptop, spending 15 – 30 minutes a day in a quiet breathing space, this can be as simple as taking the dog for a walk, having a bath, reading a book, going for a swim, knitting, sewing, walking, climbing, running, helping others.

Helping others give us a huge amount of peace

Its simple, it takes up our time, which is why many people don’t do it

Helping others is why you are here, to serve.

Its selfish, because it gives back to you in so many ways

So, go and help others, expect nothing in return, do it for yourself, reap the rewards, it may not be financial, but financial reward isn’t always a sign of success, what you feel in your heart though…well..thats a different matter..

Mel

x

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Mel Collie | You Already Know What To Do

Mel Collie | You Already Know What To Do

You aren’t stupid

You already know that eating fruit and veg is good for you

You already know you should walk more than you do

Your already know alcohol isn’t great for your Liver

You already know you should drink more water, and you are trying to , but…

 

Too busy

Too tired

Forgot

Not important right now….

 

All reasons why you aren’t changing.

So, ask the right questions, instead of beating yourself up and going around in circles, change the questions.

1. What will be the most enjoyable way for you to …….right now (insert your goal ..whatever it is, maybe its losing fat, toning up, have less pain, drink more water, eat less sugar, walk more, sit less, have more fun, be happier, eat more lemon drizzle cake…for example)

2. How does that serve you

3. How will it make you feel

Change the questions you ask yourself, and see what changes in your life my friend. Fit your own oxygen mask first, then you can be there with your happiness for everyone else in your life, rather than the other way around.

Mel Collie

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Mel Collie | Are You Normal? 3 ways to STOP!

Mel Collie | Are You Normal? Stop it Now…

3 ways not be normal in the trendy fitness world right now could be these…

1. The trend is to exercise to be slimmer, tone up, work the abs, well, maybe as far back a when Jane Fonda started wearing leotards, we’ve always been exercising with flat abs as our goal, why is that? Are we worried that is we don’t have flat abs then we won’t be loved, won’t look good naked, it will reduce our confidence in the bedroom? Who said that in order to be more desirable we should be slimmer and more toned? Is it true? How about we stop thinking of exercises to give us a six pack …(are you aiming to be on the front of a magazine? if you are, share your story of dedication and what it takes)  its not consistent, doesn’t last a lifetime and can burn you out,  Could we try to change the word “exercise” , one that many see as torture, boring, a chore, for “play, movement” and practice cartwheels, handstands, forward rolls, tumbles…do things you did when you were a kid. They are awesome for reduced pain and increased alignment. When the body is in alignment it works beautifully…check out www.amnacademny.com

2. Could we scrap the word diet, which in our modern day vocabulary, now means restriction but..it  didn’t used to mean that at all..we have changed it through the years, words change as we change, instead , pick a different word, why not use the word “nourishment”. When you choose that word, you choose to eat foods for your wellbeing, rather than eating “clean”for 19 – 30 days  because its a trendy thing to do right now. You don’t hear the stories of what happens after that. Maybe we should hear more truths. Maybe nourishment is more sustainable. Would you rather nourish yourself that diet? This is remarkable, as it gives you permission to remove from your vocabulary “bad foods”  and “good foods” Did you know you can actually test a muscular response to things like sugar? I will do a blog post on this one day, but for some people, nuts are good and for other they aren’t. Realising your bodies reactions to food can open up an understanding to how your unique nervous system works.

3. Your metabolism changes all the time. So what works today for you may not work next week, so go with the flow,  as my Body balance instructor used to say…It doesn’t mean that you failed, far from it! It means you are a great listener. And great listeners are few and far between. Listen to your body, accept that theres days it wants to rest and recover, work with it, love it, cherish it. When you look back at history, how things have changed over the years, we really are here for a very short amount of time, but what a privilege to have the chance to be here at this very point in time, with the choices we have, the technology we have, the travel opportunities we have, the luxuries, the natural world around us.

4. (There’s always a bonus number)…So..I was thinking about  cellulite. You know its normal don’t you? Everyone has it. Accept it, love that its a part of your body. Its a human being that decided they didn’t like it and that its not acceptable. (its was also a human that said it was acceptable to have a divide between the colour of the human skin, what a load of crap that was, we are all the same, all connected, no matter where we come from ) Who are we to say that about the body? Do you really understand what it is and why you have it before stating you think its ugly because its on the front of a celebrity magazine as being touted as unsightly?For nay of us, thats damaging to the self esteem, and we will eat a bar of chocolate or a donut as we read the magazine. You could choose to eat an apple instead, however, the female brain is wired for comfort food when stressed. Having more articles helping you understand how your brain works in times of anxiety, stress and pressure, would be more beneficial.

If you really don’t like cellulite, choose to eat more greens, watercress is a prime example (google “indole 3 carbinol”)   to help you excrete cellulite as well as less sitting watching tv/checking Facebook etc, more exciting different ways to move ( go outside and do 10 cartwheels right now…) , but understand more about what it is and that females are more predisposed to it that males, especially in the thigh area. Who really cares? You could have the perfect thighs and be so unhappy.(reach for the donuts…uh oh..) .

Stop following everyone else. How do you know they are right? Is it true? What if they were wrong?

Do what works for you, this may take a bit of time, because you may not be sure, and thats ok…Im still experimenting too. We are all scientists 🙂

So, why not have more fun and be happier, however, you have permission from no one else but yourself.

Let go and give yourself a greater life experience. We have wayyyyy too short a time on this spinning rock to be worrying about what people think of you, give that up for a start.They are only worrying about the same thing. Honest! They are!

I love you of course, as you are..

Mel

x

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Mel helps change peoples lives who feel a little bit lost. You will find her in North Wales right now , probably being attacked by the midges as she practices using her Canon camera and new filters… whilst still attempting a cartwheel  🙂