Mel Collie | What happens when you beat yourself up
Don’t know about you, but I’m so guilty of this, I’m always beating myself up, telling myself off for not doing something or doing it incorrectly, making mistakes, a constant conversation with myself in my head.
So, what does it mean though and how can you see it for what it is?
Well, here’s the thing, it just means that you are living in the past, all the time, not liking yourself for something you didn’t do or say, it is a waste of energy when you look at it don’t you think? Energy you could be using to change what happened and move on.
Yep. Move on.
You might do it again, you might not.
I use those mistakes as lessons. All lessons are good ones. Stress is a way of you understanding you are doing stuff thats too much for you right now, stuff you don’t like, don’t enjoy or feel pressure.
Sometimes its good stress, it can motivate you, get you moving forward, meeting deadlines.
Other times we don’t know how to switch off, keep on taking more on until we can’t take it, it can be something simple that makes you flip.
Release it and feel a lot more freedom. See stress as your friend, not your enemy.
This gives you space to follow where and what you want to be. No ones judging you, you only think they are, when really, your worst critic is in your head.
So next time you catch yourself beating yourself up, giving yourself hard time ..ask yourself a couple of questions.
Are those berating thoughts you are having absolutely true?
Who would you be without those thoughts?
Just answering those 2 questions can start a little shard of realisation in your brain.
Enjoy the journey
p.s. I thank Byron Katie and her Work for those questions, I use them everyday, and also on my 1:1 clients
p.p.s Drink Tulsi Tea, its a wonderful, kind of magical herb (Holy Basil) from India that helps calm and relax you, get it from the health food shop before the government find out and make it illegal (only kidding..)