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Mel Collie |Facebook & How To Use It For Your Health

Mel Collie |Facebook & How To Use It For Your Health

Guilty.

Losing time, procrastinating, looking at other peoples status updates, wondering why my life/body/diet/ car/house/whatever ┬áisn’t as perfect as theirs!

Its all a con though, right? We never update the truth. Sex & scandal sell.

A couple of years ago a few of us posted selfies (really? selfie sticks?! FFS) of how we looked when we got up in the morning, no make up, the raw truth. How refreshing! Ok, maybe we didn’t all look refreshing, but thats the point.

Break barriers

Challenge the usual/norm

Be different

Stand out

Be you

The only person judging you is yourself, you will judge yourself more than anyone else EVER will.

It all comes from upbringing, family, conditioning, peer pressure, media.

How we SHOULD be

How we SHOULD act

who says? who made up the rules?

Don’t know if you’ve ever noticed but theres more than one shape of tree in the woods, its not the same as the next tree, it doesn’t

Mel Collie | Are you Good Enough?

Mel Collie | Are you Good Enough?

Diaries, I’ve had many over the years, but now I’m 50, I look back and realise the last time I wrote a diary was in my 20’s.

Haven’t blogs taken over now as peoples way of keeping a momento of their day to day adventures? Or is it Facebook?

One of my reasons for still being on facebook is the reason I started an account in the first place, to keep in touch with my sister in Indonesia.

Its easy to get swept away and watch what others are doing, reading status updates and compare your life to theirs, your family, money, success, health, body shape, and worry that we arent keeping up.

Things like these can either make or break us, is we allow it to.
You are in charge
You are in the driving seat
No one else in in charge of your life

Using energy to help out others in their struggles rather than using energy to judge ourselves, beat ourselves up about not being strong enough, skinny enough, pretty enough, rich enough…

Its exhausting trying to be perfect.

When Chris & I created the SOB online program, it was with this in mind, not to bully anyone into thinking they werent enough already, because you are, we all are, but to open eyes and realise just that.

Then accept it.
You are enough
As you are right now.
Acceptance of that fact is as hard as you make it because it brings with it all those little negative voices that you’ve heard over the years that you believe you cant do it , aren’t good enough

but you are

right now

The online program helps steer you through all the noise on Facebook and other social networking sites that can overtake, if you allow it to.

Action steps, accountability and a map to help guide you through the rocky sections of the path to accepting you as you are.

Now go look in that mirror and tell your reflection you are the best, amazing, fabulous. You dont need anyone else to tell you that, you just believe it.

But the most powerful thing is, that you are possibly going to listen to the negative voices in your own head, because thats where you live.

So, when you hear those voices that you are listening to ask yourself

 

Are they true?

Is it true that you arent good enough, will fail, will look stupid, wont be liked, are too overweight, arent perfect enough etc etc

Is it true?

How do you know it is (if your answer was a big fat YES , like those big fat YES the judges award in Britains Got talent…what does a big fat YES look like anyway?)

Question yourself.

Is it true

How do you know for sure

Are you being true to yourself or pleasing someone else

Then watch what happens as you go about your day.

Mel Collie & Chris Tuck
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