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Mel Collie | Think You Are A Failure?

Mel Collie | Think You Are A Failure?

Most days I speak to other women who play it small, keep things quiet, afraid to shine their light.

Because they are worried what other people will think of them, but also, worried that they will fall flat on their face, fail, and then be laughed at.

Thats one reason that I kept playing it small when I moved to a new location in North Wales, UK, as a Pilates teacher, I met another Pilates teacher with a successful business a couple of miles away, just outside the village, but because I believed she had better Pilates equipment than I and that she was trained through a very strict and well connected Pilates school, I felt that she was better. I played it small. I got what I thought I deserved, which was…no clients…for weeks and weeks..

That left me feeling useless, a failure, with no purpose.

My partner then had a serious infection in his foot. In hospital , they wanted to take his foot off..he’s a climber, and that would have changed a lot of stuff for us, but having a very strong and different way of looking at life, probably due to his life of studying Physics and eastern mysticism, he quickly recovered and looked at whatever was to happen to him as an opportunity, not a failure.

That woke me up! Wow, if you can look at a serious implication of having a foot off as an opportunity, then I could look at not having any Pilates clients as a lesson, an opportunity, so I did. I changed my thinking. I changed my expectation , and the things changed around me.

Is my business as successful as it was before I moved here? Nope, nowhere near, but that took 5 years to build, and I’ve only just started here.

Have I changed the way I teach Pilates? yes I have. Ive slowed down. Ive used my spare time to study the brain and how it affects movement, pain, mobility, flexibility, strength. I used to train anyone, now I just train very small classes for specific types of clients, women who have lived with pain for more than 2 years, aged 30 + and find larger exercise classes intimidating. The sessions are a mixture of gentle modified Pilates, laughter, brain hacks to help reduce pain fast, self esteem boosters and accountability. Not your average class, but then Im not your average teacher.
Am I happy? Yes, most definitely, my days are free to be curious, and one of the things I have is a curiosity of the world, how things work, why things are the way they are, what a sunrise looks like by the lake, what a sunset looks like on the beach, what reflections look like through raindrops from a leaf, what Autumnal colours look like in the woods by the lake, what the view is like at the top of the mountain and what can you overcome within yourself along that journey. Ive taken up photography, invested in a proper grown up camera with proper lenses, a bright Orange (LOVE that colour!) rucksack, with proper compartments for those lenses and camera stuff…and sweeties for the long walks…(photos are on my website: www.melcollie.co.uk  and Flickr too! Very posh! )

What is your curiosity? Follow that and you just may find your passion.
Mel Collie

www,melcollie.com

www.posturegeek.co.uk

Beginners Pilates Classes for posture, self esteem , fun, support, reflection and of course, the obvious core strength are now happening in Llanberis, North Wales.

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Mel Collie | Which exercises help improve your memory ?

Mel Collie ” Which exercises help improve your memory?

Memory, cravings and mobility can all be helped by doing exercises that help certain areas of the brain respond & grow.

The eyes and ears and spine are connected via track in the brain, connected by neurons that control eye motion, the balance system and spine musculature.
If the brain doesn’t perceive the spine to be mobile, or stable, it will NEVER, allow the full potential range or contractile motion to be realised from your limbs.

Make sense?

Cool!

Engage your brain and it will reward you with better muscle facilitation, range of motion, balance and movement performance.

I give clients rapid eye movement for homework to do, they are a function of the front cortex of the brain, the CEO if you like, the boss.
I believe that skill work is lacking from traditional approaches to exercise.

The more complex the movement, the more your brain loves it, plus, the more focused your attention as you perform the moves, the better overall result.

When you eventually manage to perform the movement well, as you practice and practice and practice, you are rewarded with a sense of accomplishment, the hormone Dopamine, floods the system.

So, other than just exercising for body composition, which is all the rage right now (must have a flatter belly, must have a flatter belly…..), is it time to flip it and choose movement skills for a re enhanced brain function, more fun and engaging than punishing yourself on a treadmill for example.

Your brain requires feedback from all joints.

A simple movement like standing, lifting up one knee, the opposite elbow coming forward to touch, then change knees and elbows, so you cross over each time, when you have that nailed 10 reps, without falling to one side, add a walk forwards as you do the movement, then walk backwards doing the movement.

Then close your eyes 🙂

Cartwheels, forward rolls, handstands – kids movement we all did.. but sadly as adults, don’t do anymore, but they are all bone strengthening , all weight bearing, all fun to practice.

Improving attention improves mobility, staying focused as you exercise, enhances mobility.

Activate your cerebellum today,and your future will be a lot brighter for your brain function.

Get yourself to the park and get cartwheeling with the kids 🙂

Mel Collie

www.melcollie.com

Mel Collie| 2 ways on Monday morning to embrace stress

Mel Collie| 2 ways on Monday morning to embrace stress

Earlier this week, a client was stressing about her Monday mornings

The build up starts on Sunday night though, an atmosphere of wanting to enjoy the last night of family and “me” time before rushing around on Monday morning.

Me too! I’m with you here, and I’ve been there.

2 things you can right now, without actually having to use up any precious time, because you are busy, right?

1. Embrace the stress. I know many gurus will tell you how to combat stress (I’ve done it loads of times) but stress keeps on coming back. We battle it, it comes back, we fight it, it comes back.

Stress, anxiety, fear, insecurity… is just this – thoughts that you are worrying about that haven’t happened yet. Its ok to feel stress, anxiety fear..whatever you name those feelings, its ok, we all get those feelings. How you deal with it – notice it, notice your breathe for a moment.

Just noticing your breathing slows down the “aaaauuugghhhh” feeling in your brain, but theres no time to discuss the science bit right now! As Nike say…just do it 🙂

2. Theres only 1 person who can create these feelings – thats you, that means theres only you who can deal with it, take it away, thats you. Taking responsibility for your thoughts in your head is hard, but worthwhile.

Ask yourself , when you get the next fearful thought ” is it true?”

 

So

 

Breathe

Ask if its true when you next have those thoughts

 

You then let go of becoming a victim

You begin to see what you actually want

You suddenly have the clarity to act on what you want to do, be, have.

You accept what is.

I read this yesterday..When you realize that every stressful moment you experience is a gift that points you to your freedom, life becomes very kind.

So go to work with a different view to everyone else around you today, stop fighting the stress, and accept it.

Mel

x

Ever read the book “The Tiger who Came To tea?” Invite the Tiger in like the little girl did, and it wasn’t as bad as we all thought it would be. the Tiger isn’t that bad after all. Its all preconceived ideas , thoughts from past conditioning.

The Tiger is the stress.

Invite the Tiger in.

 

 

Mel Collie | Are You Normal? 3 ways to STOP!

Mel Collie | Are You Normal? Stop it Now…

3 ways not be normal in the trendy fitness world right now could be these…

1. The trend is to exercise to be slimmer, tone up, work the abs, well, maybe as far back a when Jane Fonda started wearing leotards, we’ve always been exercising with flat abs as our goal, why is that? Are we worried that is we don’t have flat abs then we won’t be loved, won’t look good naked, it will reduce our confidence in the bedroom? Who said that in order to be more desirable we should be slimmer and more toned? Is it true? How about we stop thinking of exercises to give us a six pack …(are you aiming to be on the front of a magazine? if you are, share your story of dedication and what it takes)  its not consistent, doesn’t last a lifetime and can burn you out,  Could we try to change the word “exercise” , one that many see as torture, boring, a chore, for “play, movement” and practice cartwheels, handstands, forward rolls, tumbles…do things you did when you were a kid. They are awesome for reduced pain and increased alignment. When the body is in alignment it works beautifully…check out www.amnacademny.com

2. Could we scrap the word diet, which in our modern day vocabulary, now means restriction but..it  didn’t used to mean that at all..we have changed it through the years, words change as we change, instead , pick a different word, why not use the word “nourishment”. When you choose that word, you choose to eat foods for your wellbeing, rather than eating “clean”for 19 – 30 days  because its a trendy thing to do right now. You don’t hear the stories of what happens after that. Maybe we should hear more truths. Maybe nourishment is more sustainable. Would you rather nourish yourself that diet? This is remarkable, as it gives you permission to remove from your vocabulary “bad foods”  and “good foods” Did you know you can actually test a muscular response to things like sugar? I will do a blog post on this one day, but for some people, nuts are good and for other they aren’t. Realising your bodies reactions to food can open up an understanding to how your unique nervous system works.

3. Your metabolism changes all the time. So what works today for you may not work next week, so go with the flow,  as my Body balance instructor used to say…It doesn’t mean that you failed, far from it! It means you are a great listener. And great listeners are few and far between. Listen to your body, accept that theres days it wants to rest and recover, work with it, love it, cherish it. When you look back at history, how things have changed over the years, we really are here for a very short amount of time, but what a privilege to have the chance to be here at this very point in time, with the choices we have, the technology we have, the travel opportunities we have, the luxuries, the natural world around us.

4. (There’s always a bonus number)…So..I was thinking about  cellulite. You know its normal don’t you? Everyone has it. Accept it, love that its a part of your body. Its a human being that decided they didn’t like it and that its not acceptable. (its was also a human that said it was acceptable to have a divide between the colour of the human skin, what a load of crap that was, we are all the same, all connected, no matter where we come from ) Who are we to say that about the body? Do you really understand what it is and why you have it before stating you think its ugly because its on the front of a celebrity magazine as being touted as unsightly?For nay of us, thats damaging to the self esteem, and we will eat a bar of chocolate or a donut as we read the magazine. You could choose to eat an apple instead, however, the female brain is wired for comfort food when stressed. Having more articles helping you understand how your brain works in times of anxiety, stress and pressure, would be more beneficial.

If you really don’t like cellulite, choose to eat more greens, watercress is a prime example (google “indole 3 carbinol”)   to help you excrete cellulite as well as less sitting watching tv/checking Facebook etc, more exciting different ways to move ( go outside and do 10 cartwheels right now…) , but understand more about what it is and that females are more predisposed to it that males, especially in the thigh area. Who really cares? You could have the perfect thighs and be so unhappy.(reach for the donuts…uh oh..) .

Stop following everyone else. How do you know they are right? Is it true? What if they were wrong?

Do what works for you, this may take a bit of time, because you may not be sure, and thats ok…Im still experimenting too. We are all scientists 🙂

So, why not have more fun and be happier, however, you have permission from no one else but yourself.

Let go and give yourself a greater life experience. We have wayyyyy too short a time on this spinning rock to be worrying about what people think of you, give that up for a start.They are only worrying about the same thing. Honest! They are!

I love you of course, as you are..

Mel

x

www.melcollie.com

Mel helps change peoples lives who feel a little bit lost. You will find her in North Wales right now , probably being attacked by the midges as she practices using her Canon camera and new filters… whilst still attempting a cartwheel  🙂

 

 

Mel Collie | Can You Relax Away The Belly Fat?

Mel Collie | Can You Relax Away The Belly Fat?

Did you know, theres a hormone called Cortisol that increases in our bodies when we are more anxious, worried, stresesd, sleep less?  Did you know that stressing when you are eating is like eating with a bowl of soup laden with cortisol?

That means, if you are on a diet, and restrictive eating, and hating it , you are more than likely to find that results are slow coming, that belly fat isnt budging.

How can you lower those cortisol levels? Try these 2 simple ways…

 

1. Relax (I know, you dont have time and relaxing is for wimps…)

A couple of years ago, I went through a relationship break up and  wanted to go away for a while. I chose to jump in at the deep end , going on a beginners weekend silent meditation retreat in Devon at Gaia House that a friend recommended.

It was bliss….just what I needed.

Fear puts us off doing so many things doesn’t it? For me, the silence aspect meant I didn’t have to talk to anyone. I quite liked that! Especially as you were sharing a room with 2 other people, if I didn’t like them I didn’t have to be nice all weekend…as we were all being quiet, and all there with the same aim. meditation doesnt have to be like that though, it can be choosing to do something you love every day, like taking 10 – 20 minutes to go for a walk, play a musical instrument, have a bath, read a chapter of a book, have a nap, go for a massage.

2. Eat. Take your time eating …it can take time to prepare meals (the prep time is also like a meditation, calming, social, methodical), but it can take a few moments to demolish, watching the TV, looking at a lap top, texting , driving. .not noticing the food we’ve just eaten.  Instead, take 20 minutes and chew the food really slowly. Look at the food on the plate, notice the colours, the textures, when you chew notice the flavours, the spices, the textures.

 

Choose simplicity : )

By taking time to calm down, to find how you would like to meditate you give yourself permission to be just you for a moment, you can pick up your worries and stressors afterwards if you feel like you cant live without them and need them.

That is your choice. We all have a choice what to pick up and what to put down.

Some choose to meditate quietly every day for 15 – 60 minutes, morning  and evening, some feel they can’t start their day without this routine or the day becomes a tangled mess.

No, don’t you think that they started their routine somewhere. They didn’t jump in at 60 minutes of silence and just have a clear mind.

They probably don’t ever achieve a clear mind, it’s always jumping about.

It takes practice, and practice always stays at just that, practice, you don’t want to reach perfection, as no ones perfect, maybe in your mind you think that other people are because you see yourself as not quite there yet and judge yourself.

You don’t want to be perfect.

(Get used to that thought….)

You just want to released from what isn’t serving you right now, the baggage you carry everyday thats weighing you down and making your life not as amazing as you would love it to be, as you can make it be.

So, start slow and small, just one step, with the mindful eating, watching yourself, watching your habits.

We all learned how to drive in a car park or a quiet side road, not on a busy Motorway on a  Monday morning, That would have put you off and the Insurance company would have had heart failure : )

Take time to focus on something as simple as your breathing during the day, at your break times at work.

Notice how you feel.

Notice how you are just here in the present moment, not the past, not the future, just now.

Notice that you are not lacking a thing.

Notice how you don’t have to acquire anything.

Notice that you are already right here where you need to be.

Notice that if your mind wanders that it is OK

As soon as you notice it has wandered, you are back here in the present moment, and you can address it and focus on your breathing again, simples!

Theres no judgement, there’s no telling off, there’s no shouting and feeling you are wrong, there’s just you and your breath.

Enjoy your stillness and calm.

Mel

www.melcollie.com