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Mel Collie | Is stress a positive thing?

Mel Collie | Is stress a positive thing?

 

Stress.. a warning sign to the mind thats something wrong in the data set. The mind looked inside itself and said..hey, whats going on..one of the filing cabinets is open and is not neat and tidy in here, its unorganised, its messy….whats happening?

Stress…the minds inability to be able to solve the situation..the minds constantly housekeeping, every second its checking the files..all the data, making sure its all in place, organised, and stress is where the mind says , this isn’t right, its not supposed to be like this.

You’ve hit a point, theres something you don’t agree with, its not that somethings actually WRONG, its just that you don’t agree with whats going on..

So, is stress a positive thing?

Is it an illusion..have we created the stress we know today, modern stress?

Well, your mind creates a state of feeling , you have a moan at yourself, because you don’t have anyone else to moan to.

We judge ourselves, often speaking to ourselves the way you would never allow a friend to speak to us.

We then internalise whatever it is we don’t agree with and it manifests as stress

The external stuff can be things like being stuck in a job you hate, not having the latest fashions, not having a new car, unable to afford to go abroad or buy new shoes or the latest laptop or newest mobile.

All these thoughts and processes bubble over in our minds.

We have an inability to recognise the data, our brains cant organise it, so we then get stressed..

We cant work it out

We haven’t got the answer

So we row with the self

Instead of…accepting it

When  your body is thirsty you need water..it the bodies last attempt to get water, to get your attention to drink and hydrate.

Stress is mental thirst, bubbling over with information that your mind cant put it into a neat pile, it goes into hyperdrive in terms of intellectual responses, so you over think and over analyse. as the brain throws information at every situation, it cant put it into boxes, making it neat and tidy, organised. Our 10,000 year old ancestors reacted instinctively to the growing stimulus and fought or ran from the tiger/lion/melting volcano.

Now we have invented issues we call stress – the mobile fell down the loo, cant find the car keys, cant get a six pack, the person in the office has a belly is flatter than yours, the office isn’t tidy, the trousers aren’t ironed properly…etc etc…

If you react often to situations like these they can be an indicator to where the real problems are in your life.

They are all invented problems that aren’t a threat to our survival, like the caveman running from the tiger.

So, maybe we  have to just accept thats what happening, realise it ..an accept it..

So, how can we begin to quieten the mind and release some of the stress we feel?

 

Ways to de stress

  • Quiet time is so important, especially with the constant noise from social media. Quiet time helps our mind to strip back the information that is not necessary.
  • Breathing slow and deep – 10 times – repeat 4 times a day.
  • Go for a walk on the beach/woodland/mountains/park
  • Have a bath – no one is allowed to disturb you
  • Read a book that stimulates your mind away from the glossing over stuff like how the latest celeb lost a zillion stone and how their wash board stomach makes them happy ..
  • Challenge yourself – do something that scares you…go climbing (believe me..that will really get you going..), go scrambling, go for a run, book yourself into something you have to work towards like a marathon, learn something new, spend a night out wild camping and look at the stars ..
  • Spend less time on social media and more time meditating, which doesn’t mean you war orange robes and sit for hours at a time, it can be as simple as just a minute a day, doing something that grabs your curiosity – like playing the guitar for example..

However, ultimately, to accept it, realise that you have situations that are stressful to you, and ask why, notice the knock on effects, how you can change your beliefs.

Mel Collie

www.melcollie.com

 

 

Mel Collie | Don’t reach for the stars…

Mel Collie | Don’t reach for the stars…

Stop it now, stop thinking you can each for the stars

Theres a huge explosion I’m witnessing on social media telling you that you can do it, you can be have and do more.

And you can..but theres a right way, and a wrong way, and I feel that many of us are in overwhelm and feeling stuck because we are doing it the wrong way.

I’m seeing a few people who are spiralling into feelings of despair and unworthiness, overwhelm and unhappiness..because they believe that their lives are unworthy

Thats a huge problem, because, in my humble opinion, no ones life is unworthy

We are all equal

You have a right to be on the planet as much as anyone else does, what you choose to do with the years you breathe are totally up to you, its your decision.

It is not a waste of your time if you feel you have no passion to do big things and achieve great stuff..who actually determines what great stuff is and why do we still deal with labels, putting ourselves into boxes and closing the lid?

Look at human beings who talk about buddhism.. for example

They are only talking about kindness towards each other – they aren’t bank managers, they aren’t CEO of Harrods, they aren’t running a newspaper, they aren’t CEO of a popular shop or brand, they don’t swear by eating clean and doing 100 sit ups for flat abs… yet they smile and are content..

They too may have wondered what they are going to do when they grow up

Like you, they may have been tempted to work in an organisation, in an office

….Well, ok maybe not, but you see where I’m going with this….

When I’m on holiday, its the local people who make the place, the people standing behind the counter serving you the coffee, the people in the street standing around chatting, the people sitting outside the cafes playing chess, the people mingling and just living, just being, in their ordinary lives, they are the characters.

You don’t have to reach for the stars if you don’t want to

You can just be

If you feel that just being isn’t not enough for you, well, the noise of social media can drown out your passion, until you just follow the crowd feeling alone and lost without a sense of purpose, because you may just be spending your time comparing yourself to others, even if you don’t mean to your life may seem to pale in comparison to others achievements..

…remember though, the life on Facebook and Twitter etc is usually fake, not many people take off their mask when they are on social media, they are great at being keyboard warriors, hiding behind the laptop, but to actually stand up and be real, that takes courage…

What to do about it then? You could spend some time being silent, away from the noise, closing the laptop, spending 15 – 30 minutes a day in a quiet breathing space, this can be as simple as taking the dog for a walk, having a bath, reading a book, going for a swim, knitting, sewing, walking, climbing, running, helping others.

Helping others give us a huge amount of peace

Its simple, it takes up our time, which is why many people don’t do it

Helping others is why you are here, to serve.

Its selfish, because it gives back to you in so many ways

So, go and help others, expect nothing in return, do it for yourself, reap the rewards, it may not be financial, but financial reward isn’t always a sign of success, what you feel in your heart though…well..thats a different matter..

Mel

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Mel Collie | The negative meditation

Mel Collie | The negative meditation

Mindfulness is big news

You should meditate they say

You tried it, your mind wandered, you had stuff to do, it didnt work

Me too..

Life gets in the way doesn’t it?

Heres what helped me to recently get some kind of clarity , because some kind of stillness, quiet, meditation practice does really work. Maybe you find the answers to stuff when out for a walk, or in the shower, or dancing around the kitchen to your favourite tunes…this is one kind of meditation you can do at anytime of day..or night..

Massage those negative thoughts.

Gather then up, all those words that are holding you back – cant, should, maybe, what if, not good enough..all those negatives that are holding you back from being you, and get them in a corner of your mind and massage them

Treat them to a lovely massage, use your imagination to get in there with your hands and give them some love.

Feels really good!

Mel

www.melcollie.com

 

Mel Collie | You Already Know What To Do

Mel Collie | You Already Know What To Do

You aren’t stupid

You already know that eating fruit and veg is good for you

You already know you should walk more than you do

Your already know alcohol isn’t great for your Liver

You already know you should drink more water, and you are trying to , but…

 

Too busy

Too tired

Forgot

Not important right now….

 

All reasons why you aren’t changing.

So, ask the right questions, instead of beating yourself up and going around in circles, change the questions.

1. What will be the most enjoyable way for you to …….right now (insert your goal ..whatever it is, maybe its losing fat, toning up, have less pain, drink more water, eat less sugar, walk more, sit less, have more fun, be happier, eat more lemon drizzle cake…for example)

2. How does that serve you

3. How will it make you feel

Change the questions you ask yourself, and see what changes in your life my friend. Fit your own oxygen mask first, then you can be there with your happiness for everyone else in your life, rather than the other way around.

Mel Collie

www.posturegeeek.co.uk

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Mel Collie |Facebook & How To Use It For Your Health

Mel Collie |Facebook & How To Use It For Your Health

Guilty.

Losing time, procrastinating, looking at other peoples status updates, wondering why my life/body/diet/ car/house/whatever  isn’t as perfect as theirs!

Its all a con though, right? We never update the truth. Sex & scandal sell.

A couple of years ago a few of us posted selfies (really? selfie sticks?! FFS) of how we looked when we got up in the morning, no make up, the raw truth. How refreshing! Ok, maybe we didn’t all look refreshing, but thats the point.

Break barriers

Challenge the usual/norm

Be different

Stand out

Be you

The only person judging you is yourself, you will judge yourself more than anyone else EVER will.

It all comes from upbringing, family, conditioning, peer pressure, media.

How we SHOULD be

How we SHOULD act

who says? who made up the rules?

Don’t know if you’ve ever noticed but theres more than one shape of tree in the woods, its not the same as the next tree, it doesn’t