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Mel Collie | 3 Ways to Reduce Belly Fat

Mel Collie | 3 Ways to Reduce Belly Fat

Firstly though, do you really want to reduce belly fat for yourself, or for someone else, because knowing why you want to achieve something and what it takes to get there are the real reasons you stick at something, show up when you don’t feel like it, realise that you will come across obstacles,life will get in the way and its not as easy as the celebs say on the dvd…

  1. Effort. Yes you need effort, realisation and a passion to really want this, willpower doesn’t work, it will fail you and you will reach for sugar and cancel your training sessions. Motivation , a passion and real reason behind your WHY is your key to sticking to your goal, you need more than “I just want to lose my belly”…peel the onion, peel back the layers and ask yourself why you want to…is it because you want to look great naked with the lights on in the bedroom…if so, why is that, so your other half will still fancy you, do you believe they wont fancy you if you have a belly, do they tell you that, is that thought true, if it is, who made you feel like that? This kind of peeling back the layers can be very painful, and induce tears sometimes, so be prepared to face your real truth, its liberating…but a bumpy ride for many of us as we face reality.
  2. Working in is just as important as working out. Shame really that sex sells…and things like meditation and breathing done make as much money, however, the tide has started to turn and people are seeking some peace and quiet in their lives. Belly fat stores cortisol, released from the arenal glands which sit on top of your kidneys, this means stubborn belly fat wont budge until you calm it down a bit. Working out for longer and every day may not cut it for you, might have done when you were younger, but if you are now stressed, hate your job, have low self esteem, think you aren’t worthy, menopausal and don’t celebrate the fact that you are alive and love your planet, then cortisol just might hanging around for too long. Yes we need that hormone, but not too much of it. Working in means breathing slowly and deeply a few times before you eat, touching your lips stimulates the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps with rest and digesting food, taking a 20 minutes walk everyday, loving sex with your other half (if you are single then yes, masturbation also helps reduce stress…it also doesn’t make you blind…)Meditation and mindfulness are the obvious others as well, you’ve heard of them Im sure, but do you bother to practice them. You don’t need to be a Buddhist or chant, or indeed wear Orange robes, but a minute, 4 or 5 times a day, just focus on your breathing, be aware of you, be aware that in those 60 seconds, your thoughts will distract you. Busy brain you have there, as we all do. Clarity comes with practicing mindfulness, meditation, which helps reduce stress and anxiety, but you’ve got to do it. Always a catch…
  3. Perfection. Drop the perfection thing. Waiting to do something until the time is right, until everything perfect, until you are perfect, may take a while. Just start, make errors, make mistakes, its part of the journey, yet no one talks about their errors on social media, just their perfect lives..yet behind that mask they wear are may errors and mistakes. Be prepared to fail, embrace them and move on. You are already at perfection, just as you are. Its everyone else judgements about you that tip you of balance. Awareness of where you are right now is enough, you are enough and doing what you can with the best of your ability, is enough. Stop comparing, and accept you. As you.

Mel

www.melcollie.com

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Mel Collie | Think You Are A Failure?

Mel Collie | Think You Are A Failure?

Most days I speak to other women who play it small, keep things quiet, afraid to shine their light.

Because they are worried what other people will think of them, but also, worried that they will fall flat on their face, fail, and then be laughed at.

Thats one reason that I kept playing it small when I moved to a new location in North Wales, UK, as a Pilates teacher, I met another Pilates teacher with a successful business a couple of miles away, just outside the village, but because I believed she had better Pilates equipment than I and that she was trained through a very strict and well connected Pilates school, I felt that she was better. I played it small. I got what I thought I deserved, which was…no clients…for weeks and weeks..

That left me feeling useless, a failure, with no purpose.

My partner then had a serious infection in his foot. In hospital , they wanted to take his foot off..he’s a climber, and that would have changed a lot of stuff for us, but having a very strong and different way of looking at life, probably due to his life of studying Physics and eastern mysticism, he quickly recovered and looked at whatever was to happen to him as an opportunity, not a failure.

That woke me up! Wow, if you can look at a serious implication of having a foot off as an opportunity, then I could look at not having any Pilates clients as a lesson, an opportunity, so I did. I changed my thinking. I changed my expectation , and the things changed around me.

Is my business as successful as it was before I moved here? Nope, nowhere near, but that took 5 years to build, and I’ve only just started here.

Have I changed the way I teach Pilates? yes I have. Ive slowed down. Ive used my spare time to study the brain and how it affects movement, pain, mobility, flexibility, strength. I used to train anyone, now I just train very small classes for specific types of clients, women who have lived with pain for more than 2 years, aged 30 + and find larger exercise classes intimidating. The sessions are a mixture of gentle modified Pilates, laughter, brain hacks to help reduce pain fast, self esteem boosters and accountability. Not your average class, but then Im not your average teacher.
Am I happy? Yes, most definitely, my days are free to be curious, and one of the things I have is a curiosity of the world, how things work, why things are the way they are, what a sunrise looks like by the lake, what a sunset looks like on the beach, what reflections look like through raindrops from a leaf, what Autumnal colours look like in the woods by the lake, what the view is like at the top of the mountain and what can you overcome within yourself along that journey. Ive taken up photography, invested in a proper grown up camera with proper lenses, a bright Orange (LOVE that colour!) rucksack, with proper compartments for those lenses and camera stuff…and sweeties for the long walks…(photos are on my website: www.melcollie.co.uk  and Flickr too! Very posh! )

What is your curiosity? Follow that and you just may find your passion.
Mel Collie

www,melcollie.com

www.posturegeek.co.uk

Beginners Pilates Classes for posture, self esteem , fun, support, reflection and of course, the obvious core strength are now happening in Llanberis, North Wales.

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Mel Collie | What is Grounding and how can it help your energy levels?

Mel Collie | What is Grounding and how can it help your energy levels?

Grounding..is it the missing link?

On a health kick for the summer? Eating loads of green veggies, sales, fruit and drinking 2 litres of water a day?

Me too…done it before, but this time its different . I’ve learned some coaching skills to ask myself the right questions , so its more than just wanting to be fitter or slimmer for the beach..
It goes  a lot deeper than that.

When you ask yourself the right questions, you begin to understand the “Why” behind your actions, as a lot of choices go back to childhood, back to when you were upset , crying, were given sweet treats to eat to comfort you, the brain is hardwired to realise this, so realisation as to why and when we reach for sweet things, goes deeper than just because its in the fridge.

Grounding is another powerful tool to help us.

Taking off your shoes and walking in the grass, feeling an uneven natural surface underfoot connects all the way up to your brain, plus your abs are connected to your feet, so the more your feet move the better the connection all the way up the kinetic chain.

Remember though, if you are the kind of person who always pushes themselves, thinks that rest, meditation, playfulness, relaxation, massage – are a waste of time or you are too buys for those kind of things, look at it this way..

Always working out isn’t great for the body, it needs to recover, rejuvenate, replenish.
So if you rely on coffee, alcohol, drugs to wake you up and keep your energy levels up, take away some stuff from your life right now to make space.

The average body today has 200 chemicals that do not belong in the human body.
Allow them to escape or diminish them by..

1. Stop overloading the immune system with chemicals so it can help you, not struggle – drink water over fizzy drinks for example, a simple thing, yet we shun it, is it because we think it too simple or that water is boring? We are made up from a very high percentage of water, we aren’t boring, get drinking, your immune system will be so grateful, as will your digestive system too.
2. Fatigue is becoming more common place, we are tired, yet wired. Adrenal fatigue is common, waking up but feeling tired and foggy. Count how many cups of caffeine you drink a day/week/month. Cut that figure by 50%. See how you feel then go for the whole lot, cut it all out. Replace the habit with caffeine free drinks – herbal tea (I started with peppermint tea and then tried others) Green tea is a good one in the beginning, it has a small amount of caffeine in it, but you may, if you are caffeine reactive, find that has to go too in the long run. Me ? I went from a habit of 5 or 6 double espressos plus sugar, to 1 in a week (phew…detox headache, and the smell off coffee made me feel sick..)went on peppermint tea, and green tea, lemon verbena tea, and other herbal teas.
3. Spend more time away from the mobile that on it. Switch it off, put it on silent, stop checking your emails and what everyone else is doing on Facebook…really, too much now..
its boring, get a real life and go for a walk, meet up with friends, get cooking real dinners. Wi Fi can seriously deplete energy levels, for many of us, we are totally unaware that we are sensitive to something we can’t see.
4. Improve digestion by taking long slow deep breaths as a habit, improve your brain function as well whilst you are at it. Breathe in for 4 slow (and I mean slow…) counts, hold it for 4 counts, exhale for 4 and hold that exhale for 4. Repeat for a minute x 10 times a day 😉
Its free!
5. Try Tai Chi, Qi Gong, relaxing ways to “train” without feeling you have to beast yourself overtime you go to the gym, working in is more important than working out..helps balance the energies and hormonal system in a toxic world .

Bring some grounding habits into your life and watch your body become less chaotic.
Love and stuff as always..

Mel Collie & Chris Tuck
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Mel Collie | What happens when you beat yourself up

Mel Collie | What happens when you beat yourself up

Don’t know about you, but I’m so guilty of this, I’m always beating myself up, telling myself off for not doing something or doing it incorrectly, making mistakes, a constant conversation with myself in my head.

So, what does it mean though and how can you see it for what it is?

Well, here’s the thing, it just means that you are living in the past, all the time, not liking yourself for something you didn’t do or say, it is a waste of energy when you look at it don’t you think? Energy you could be using to change what happened and move on.

Yep. Move on.

Accept it.

You might do it again, you might not.

I use those mistakes as lessons. All lessons are good ones. Stress is a way of you understanding you are doing stuff thats too much for you right now, stuff you don’t like, don’t enjoy or feel pressure.

Sometimes its good stress, it can motivate you, get you moving forward, meeting deadlines.

Other times we don’t know how to switch off, keep on taking more on until we can’t take it, it can be something simple that makes you flip.

Release it and feel a lot more freedom. See stress as your friend, not your enemy.

This gives you space to follow where and what you want to be. No ones judging you, you only think they are, when really, your worst critic is in your head.

So next time you catch yourself beating yourself up, giving yourself  hard time ..ask yourself a couple of questions.

 

Are those berating thoughts you are having absolutely true?

Who would you be without those thoughts?

 

Just answering those 2 questions can start a little shard of realisation in your brain.

Enjoy the journey

 

Mel

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www.melcollie.com

p.s. I thank Byron Katie and her Work for those questions, I use them everyday, and also on my 1:1 clients

p.p.s Drink Tulsi Tea, its a wonderful, kind of magical  herb (Holy Basil) from India that helps calm and relax you, get it from the health food shop before the government find out and make it illegal (only kidding..)

 

Mel Collie |Facebook & How To Use It For Your Health

Mel Collie |Facebook & How To Use It For Your Health

Guilty.

Losing time, procrastinating, looking at other peoples status updates, wondering why my life/body/diet/ car/house/whatever  isn’t as perfect as theirs!

Its all a con though, right? We never update the truth. Sex & scandal sell.

A couple of years ago a few of us posted selfies (really? selfie sticks?! FFS) of how we looked when we got up in the morning, no make up, the raw truth. How refreshing! Ok, maybe we didn’t all look refreshing, but thats the point.

Break barriers

Challenge the usual/norm

Be different

Stand out

Be you

The only person judging you is yourself, you will judge yourself more than anyone else EVER will.

It all comes from upbringing, family, conditioning, peer pressure, media.

How we SHOULD be

How we SHOULD act

who says? who made up the rules?

Don’t know if you’ve ever noticed but theres more than one shape of tree in the woods, its not the same as the next tree, it doesn’t